How do you instill things in your children that will help them grow and learn?

How do you get your children to understand how to be obedient and listen without overwhelming yourself?

I don’t want to keep using the same methods that didn’t get me anywhere with my older son with my younger children, so I tried to talk more and be more patient versus how I was with my older son and just discipline him every chance I got..

As I get older and my children grow older, it seems like talking to them at times feels like a lot like nobody is comprehending or understanding what it is that I’m trying to instill in them or teach them.

I grew up with several different ways of being disciplined and the ways that I chose to utilize what I was taught was not always good with my oldest child so I’m trying to be different with my other children…

What are some ways that you feel you can teach your children how to listen and understand what you’re teaching them without huge confusion or confrontation??

I genuinely would like an answer as to how you parent your children and what were the results of your parenting techniques that you use on your children?